And there are quite a few moms having a hard time, especially when the elders in the family don't help out and even say sarcastic things, creating conflicts between the son and daughter-in-law. That's really frustrating.
Of course, people say that in the first ten years, you look at the mother-in-law, in the next ten years, you look at the daughter-in-law. If you want family harmony, both sides need to consider each other more.
It's not that the hardships the elderly endured should be passed on to their daughters-in-law. Those elderly who understand how tough it is for women are the ones who really know how to treat people because when one person does well, the whole family benefits.
Of course, there are sometimes strong-willed and thoughtless daughters-in-law, too. As the saying goes, it takes two to tango. If the daughter-in-law is thoughtless, the elderly will also be worried. So, people should empathize with each other to live happily and fully.
